It’s so easy to get stuck in a rut, and it’s so hard to get back on your feet. Isn’t that extremely unfair and frustrating?
People can take things too casually in a matter of days. They get lazy, and for some reason when everything is going just right, they stop trying. By the moment they realize they’ve screwed up, it’s too late to pick up where you left off. This is the reason most relationships fall apart. It’s because of the lack of trying.
You see, relationships take work—hard, long-lasting, dedicated work. It’s not all done and taken care of from the moment you agreed to be in each other’s lives. At that moment, the struggle begins, and it lasts forever.
Only after every fight and every conquered battle, the reward is more than enough to forget what you’ve had to survive to get there. Happiness is overwhelming and mesmerizing. It magically takes away every fight you had with your partner and every insulting word you’ve said or heard.
With all of this being said, if by any chance you get yourself into a situation in which your relationship needs saving, or better said ‘growing’, what are you going to do?
You need to suck it up, and try very very hard to get things back on the track. You’re going to have to make so much more effort than ever before. Take a look at your relationship and start solving things physically and emotionally.
This is how you’re going to do it…
Spice things up sexually
Use your imagination on this one because whether you’d like to admit it or not, sex plays an enormous role in every relationship. Sure, emotions count, love is a beautiful thing, but if sex isn’t good, you have a problem.
I’m suggesting you should try playing a dirty game. Have you ever tried “never have I ever” questions? It’s far from innocent, and it should get your partner’s motor running in no time. The rest will take its natural course—what matters the most are your seduction moves.
Accept you aren’t right all the time
Relationships are supposed to be about equality and compromise. If one of you thinks they are better or more important, your relationship doesn’t have a future, and it’s not even surprising it’s falling apart.
Neither of you can be right all the time. It’s impossible. The laws of nature make it impossible. So, if you’re the one who thinks things should always go your way, take a step back and reevaluate what you’re doing and how you’re acting because you’re destroying your relationship.
Try to be more romantic
Do more romantic things, never stop trying to make your partner happy. Take your partner on dates and surprise them with gifts or nice gestures. Actually, you don’t even have to take them anywhere nor you have to buy them stuff.
A word or two said or written from the heart will do just fine. If you don’t know how to express what you feel, try with love messages and love paragraphs already written. Trust me, you’ll find what you’re looking for.
Don’t take your partner for granted
Appreciate everything your partner does for you. Don’t think of it as something they are obligated to do because they are not. Their acts are acts of kindness, acts of love. Other than saying ‘I love you’ to someone, it’s important to show it.
Show them you’re grateful you have them in your life. Show them your life wouldn’t be the same without them in it. Show them they are appreciated, and they count.
Give your partner some space
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to be together 24/7. You have to understand that both of you still have separate lives, and it’s impossible to completely devote your time to one another.
This means when you see your partner struggling yet they are being quiet about it, don’t pressure them into telling you what’s going on, but leave them alone. When the time comes, they will share whatever was on their mind with you. Until then, give them some space.
Relationships are hard, and when things go south, it takes a lot of effort to bring the old spark back. And the catch is, you can’t stop at that. You have to keep trying to make the relationship grow along with both of you.